How I Met Your Mother – Time Capsule

It’s Not Too Late

March 18, 2013March 27, 2013 Monika Oktora

One of my favorite HIMYM episodes is HIMYM season8 eps 17.

What’s Lily going through maybe similar with what I’m thinking for this time..

And Marshall is so sweet :’)

Marshall: “Oh my God, Lily! What is the big deal? Okay, so what? So he said you’re just a kindergarten teacher. Why do you let that bother you?”

Lily: “Because he was right. I am just a kindergarten teacher.” “And yes, I have a degree in art history and i was meant to do something with it, but i didn’t.” “Somewhere along the line, I forgot to pursue my dream, and now.. I’m old and I’m a mom and it’s just too late for me.

Marshall: “No.. no.. no.. It’s not too late. You”re gonna quit your job tomorrow. And you’re gonna go back and pick up right where you left off with that art stuff.” “And then you know what. I’m gonna find Shelly, and I’m gonna punch her in the face. I am gonna punch a girl and run away.”

Marshall: “Look.. I promise you, your best and your most exciting days are all ahead of you.”

Lily: I love you so much for saying that, but there gets to be a point in life where that just stops being true.”

And you know what, the good thing in the story is.. yes, it’s not too late.. She still can get her dream.

So can I, right? Although it’s not instantly happen, and it may take years..

Journey, Just Learning, Project

Always Start Believing

February 21, 2013February 21, 2013 Monika Oktora

Kalau ditanya serial tv favorit saya dari sejak 2 tahun lalu (atau lupa tepatnya kapan) pasti saya jawab How I Met Your Mother. Saya ga pernah bosen ngulang episode-episodenya. Kalau lagi diputer di starworld, season berapapun dan episode berapapun, pasti saya tonton.

Seperti layaknya serial barat lainnya, memang beberapa adegan is not suitable for young children (wait, i am an adult right? Jadi sah-sah aja sih, ngehehe). Hanya memang budaya baratnya yang ga cocok banget untuk budaya kita, teteplah disaring.

Tapi bukan itu yang jadi intinya. Si tokoh utama bernama Ted Mosby ini kan diceritain nyari-nyari pasangan hidupnya. Selama 8 tahun (8 seasons) eh belum nemu aja tuh jodoh, makin aja kita penasaran.

Sampai di suatu titik, si Ted ini merasa desperado dengan penantiannya dan harapannya.. Ditambah dengan peer presure juga.

In one of his friend’s wedding, he said to Robin: “All my friends from high school, they’re here with their wives, their kids. Me? My date for the night is a sticky magazine.

“I used to believe in destiny, you know.. blablablabla…” Ceritanya Ted percaya bahwa suatu saat pasti dia menemukan calon ibu dari anak-anaknya di suatu tempat dan bisa kapan saja. Tapi saat ini, kayanya semuanya mustahil terjadi

Robin said: “You’ve just been focused on work”

Desperately Ted said: “No, it’s more than that. I’ve stopped believing… It’s just every day, I think I believe a little less, and a little less, and a little less. And that.. sucks.”

Robin gave a clever answer: “You’re Ted Mosby. You start believing again.”

Ted: “In what, destiny?”

Robin: “Chemistry. If u have a chemistry, you only need one other thing… Timing“ … “But timing is a bitch”

Yap.. Sometimes we need a perfect timing to get the best thing. But the waiting is a tough.

Salutnya buat Ted ini, he really did what Robin said. He always starts believing again whenever he fails. Akhirnya setelah 9 tahun (9 seasons), nemu juga jodohnya (gosipnya sih HIMYM tamat di season ke-9). Walaupun pada saat itu dia yang terakhir ketemu jodohnya dibanding sahabat-sahabatnya yang lain. Marshall ama Lily mah dah dari season 1, tapi Barney? yang notabene lebih ancur daripada dia, malah nikah duluan ama Robin. It must be breaking his heart so much.

I bet all of us may undergo like Ted’s through right? Whatever the problems are. (Not only about love life ya)

Yes, sometimes I feel like I stop believing.. I think I believe a little less, and a little less, and a little less.

But, I am Monik, and I start believing again

I hope so.

Wish me luck. Pray for me. Cheers.

Just Learning, Lifestyle, Love..

Supportive Relationship vs Challenging Relationship

January 27, 2012January 28, 2012 Monika Oktora

In every relationship, we’ll find difference between the lovers. Whether you like it or not.

Yah, namanya juga manusia, kalau bisa nurut dan sejalan terus mah, mungkin dia bukan manusia biasa. Bisa diperiksa dia robot apa bukan, pake batre apa ga, heuhue. Konon katanya perbedaan justru membuat suatu hubungan menjadi indah. Memang ga mungkin membuat dua insan berbeda kromosom ini selalu sepikiran, namun seninya adalah bagaimana bisa membuat satu kesepahaman antara kedua belah pihak. That’s what make a relationship grow stronger (jiyeehh sok bijak).

Saya yakin, semua manusia yang pernah membina hubungan dengan manusia lainnya (ya masa sama embe, kalau sama embe saya gatau ceritanya mungkin lain.) pasti pernah mengalami perbedaan pendapat dan friksi-friksi, baik kecil ataupun besar. Apakah itu insan yang baru menjalin kisah kasih di sekolah yang baru berumur 2 bulan atau bahkan yang sudah berumah tangga selama 20 tahun. Sisi egoisme dari kedua belah pihak pasti ada. Tapi kalau keduanya bisa mengendalikan si kuda liar ego ini dengan tepat, duh damainya hidup :).

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Lifestyle, Mumbling

The Cheerleader Effect

December 12, 2011January 25, 2012 Monika Oktora

“The cheerleader effect is when a group of women seems hot, but only as a group. Just like with the cheerleaders. They seem hot, but take each one of them individually? Sled dogs.”

Di salah satu episode How I Met Your Mother pada season 4 judulnya Jeremy’s Socks, Barney Stinson mengemukakan salah satu teorinya mengenai the cheerleader effect. Intinya ketika ada sekumpulan cecewe hang out bersama, akan terbentuk persepsi dari orang yang melihatnya bahwa mereka adalah kumpulan cewe yang cantik bin keren, padahal kalau diperhatikan secara seksama, mereka ga se-hot itu kok, malah cenderung ugly (itu yang digambarkan di filmnya ya)

Dari pernyataan Barney tersebut, saya jadi kepikiran sesuatu.

Yang saya pernah temukan dan rasakan (mungkin kamu juga pernah mengalaminya) adalah reverse effect-nya.

Ingatan saya terlempar di zaman saya masih berseragam putih abu. Jadi ketika itu ada sekumpulan cecewe yang emm.. emm.. apa yaa.. gitu deh, hebohnya seheboh badai typhon, riweuhnya seriweuh emak-emak arisan, rempongnya serempong Syahrini *eloooh?*. The point is, pas ada mereka kumpul-kumpul, suasana kelas/kantin/spot-spot lainnya di sekolah jadi berisiiiiikk banget, bener-bener kaya ada cheerleader lagi nyorakin tim basket/bola nya, ngelengking-lengking teriakannya.

No offense ya, if it is just me who feel annoyed bcos of them, so the mistake is in me, but not only me but also everyone else (ya except them of course) feel disturbed, even boys. Their scream and voice is very gengges (baca: ganggu) you know. I swear at the moment it was really gengges when they all around.

Nah tapi.. kalau mereka diuraikan satu-persatu, ditapiskan, dikeringkan, dan ditiriskan, sejujurnya mereka adalah individu yang menyenangkan. Mereka ga se-gengges itu ko, mereka manis-manis, manja-manji ala ceribele, dan yang paling penting ga annoying. Noted: itu pas mereka sendiri-sendiri ya.

Efek annoying itu baru terasa ketika mereka bersama-sama lagi, sekonyong-konyong gerombolan cheerleader itu muncul. Entah saya yang sinis atau memang saya ga setenar (baca: seberisik) mereka, tapi disukai atau tidak, they ever existed.

So, fenomena mana yang pernah kamu rasakan? The cheerleader effect ala Barney, ato reverse effectnya?

No hard feeling ya, ini postingan random yang ga penting-penting amat

Cheers..

Life is Beautiful, Lifestyle, Random Things, Trash = Relieved

Journey

March 19, 2011January 25, 2012 Monika Oktora

Ted: “Life is a meal and old age is a dessert. I spend so much of my time worrying about the future. Where’s my career going? Who am I gonna marry? But when You’re old, You don’t worry, because all that stuffs already happened”

Robin: “That’s pathetic. You cant just jump to the end, the journey is the best part”