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Repost – 7 Things Your Muslim Wife Won’t Tell You

The article from the same source Islamic Learning Materials . This article continues the former article about husband.

Yes, I wonder how he can tell it right.

Same thing, I nod and say, “I hope he tries his very best”. And I just know he does it. 🙂

What’s Going On Under the Hijab?

Last week I wrote an article entitled “7 Things Your Muslim Husband Won’t Tell You.” I thought I was gonna get a lot of complaints about that one, but so far, everyone seems to enjoy it.

Well, if the last article didn’t upset you, perhaps this one will. Actually, I don’t want to upset you. But I do want you to think about things that may not normally cross your mind.

Most men have a hard time understanding women. Even a woman they’ve been married to for years.

One minute she’s perfectly fine. The next, she’s crying like a baby.

She complains about something but when we offer advice on how to fix it, she still isn’t satisfied.

After several years of marriage (and counselling) I’ve learned to not worry so much about what my wife says. Instead, I should worry about what she doesn’t say.

With this information in mind, I’ve put together a quick list of things Muslim men should be aware of when it comes to their wife’s mind.

1. Above All, She Wants Your Love

This harkens back to a post I wrote a couple of months ago called “Love or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?”

In this article I explained that men desire respect from their wives, and women desire love from their husbands.

When a wife shows her husband less respect, he in turn shows her less love.

And when a husband shows his wife less love, she in turn shows him less respect.

And the vicious cycle repeats itself.

Stop this prophecy before it becomes self-fulfilling. Show love to your wife.

That’s what she wants. Love her despite her flaws and quirks.

And Inshallah, she’ll respect you despite your flaws and quirks.

2. She’s Bored

It’s the same thing every day.

Week in and week out.

Not only is she bored but she’s also tired.

She has to care for the kids and run the household and then pamper you.

Just thinking about doing that every day makes me want to crawl under my covers and hide. I can imagine how the average Muslim housewife must feel.

And let’s not forget about working woman. Many Muslim women have to work a full time job as well as hold a house down.

So brothers, I implore you, make your wife feel special. Give her a break.

Take her out sometimes. Surprise her with a surprise meal. Bring her favorite desert home.

Just do something every now and then to break the monotany.

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Repost – 7 Things Your Muslim Husband Won’t Tell You

I found nice post here: Islamic Learning Materials . This article is intersting and bright!

I am learning 🙂

Yes, I nod..  and say, “oke, I’ll try my very best”

What’s Going Through Your Muslim Husband’s Mind?

Ever wish you could read your husband’s mind? Western culture encourages husbands and wives to talk to each other and discuss things.

However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. Muslim husbands are very often (not always) reluctant to talk about certain things with their wives.

Part of the problem is also that sometimes it is hard to actually formulate our thoughts into the right words.

The only thing more difficult than translating thoughts to words is translating feelings to words.

 So, a lot of Muslim men and women go through their marria marriages with very little communication and never really knowing what the other person is thinking.

This quick list is for the Muslim sisters in my audience. This list will give you good idea of some of the things your husband thinks about, but just doesn’t know how, or want, to tell you.

1. Above All, He Desires Your Respect

I spoke about this in my article “Love or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?”.

In this article, I explained that women want to know their husbands love them, and men want to know their wives respect them.

It’s important that Muslim women understand the value of respect for men, especially Muslim men. In Islam, men are taught from a young age that they are supposed to be the bread-winners and caretakers of their families.

You can imagine how frustrating it would be for a man, who tries his best to care for his family, to be married to a woman who doesn’t respect him. She may declare that she loves him, but without her respect, he will quickly fall out of love with her.

This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says:

Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard. (Chapter 4, Verse 34)

If you fear there is a problem in your marriage sisters, I would suggest you start here.

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Balada Sepatu Teplek vs Heels

Well.. First of all, I was smiling while I wrote this post..

How can I not smile when remembering something sweet, this is one of the sweetest things I ever had.

Jadi saya ini termasuk istri yang banyak maunya dan banyak protes, walaupun di sisi lain saya juga mengagumi kesabaran dan kemandirian saya sebagai istri, haha.. -lha jadi muji diri sendiri *jitak kepala sendiri*-. Untungnya suami saya pengertian dan juga sabar menghadapi sifat saya yang rese ini.

Suatu waktu saya dan suami menghadiri pernikahan seorang teman SMA di bilangan Jakarta Selatan, daerah Tebet. Oke, kami pun siap-siap dan pake baju batik kembaran kami buat kondangan. Ceritana mah biar kompakan, haghaghag..

Ini baju batik kembaran kami:

Batik kembaran kami (ini bukan pas kondangan lho ya, ini udah sampe GI, muka udah kucel)

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Journey, Love..

Irama Empat Kaki

Irama Empat Kaki

Mulai tampak jalan terang anak sang mentari pusaka
Berliku indah setapak anggun mesra kanan kirinya teduh rimbun
Dihinggapi asa mimpi berlipat tak hingga
Sedikit redup di ujung, tapi ah.. itu tak penting
Karena kan sampai jua

Tak mudah untuk memulai sejejak, terlebih irama empat kaki
Susah menmbayangkan harmonis
Saat tersadar inipun tak cukup hebat, tapi ah.. itu tak penting
Karena degup ini simfoni, rasa ini kuasa

Berhembuslah nafas semesta, jauhkan petaka, bawalah angin mendorong ke utara
Kuatkanlah rumbun dunia, naungi hati permata pelangi
Eratkan ikatan jiwa jangan terlepas terbawa dunia
Karena kita tak kan melewatkan nada selain musim semi


birthday card

birthday cake

That’s a glimpse of my birthday episode.
The first birthday I celebrated with my husband, Fajar Budi Prasetyo.
How lovely he is, right?

Sadly, this year I didn’t celebrate the day with my friends and family.. heuheu..
However.. I know we pray for each other
Everything changing, but love remains 🙂